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How to help a loved one with an addiction

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18-11-2015

Living with someone suffering an addiction is difficult and taking steps on the path to recovery is tough for everyone involved.

Learning how to deal with the reality of addiction is the most important first step. Here are some bits of advice that might help you to cope: 


Things you can do to help

  • Educate yourself on addiction and recovery. There is lots of advice out there (see links below) and professionals who work with addictions every day. By making contact, you will find that you are not on your own

  • Try to avoid accusations or judgments. This is a difficult time for both of you
  • Provide a sober environment that reduces triggers for using
  • Understand that you'll have to make some changes. You both need to create an environment where it is easier to not gamble, or use alcohol or drugs, for example
  • Providing excuses or covering up for your affected loved one is not going to help them
  • If you want to provide financial support, buy day to day goods like groceries instead of giving money that could be used to gamble with, or buy alcohol or drug

Things you can do for yourself

  • Take care of yourself. Helping someone through a tough time can be exhausting, and you also need time to recover. Support is available for families - see the links below
  • Avoid self-blame. You can't control another person's decisions and you can't force them to change
  • Understand that there is only so much you can do to help someone. The best approach is to be an example of balance and self-care.
  • Arguing or trying to discuss things with someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol won't achieve anything. Wait until they're sober
  • If at all possible, try to be positive when dealing with someone who is battling an addiction. Being negative may only increase their feelings of guilt and push them further into using
  • Ask for help. Talk to a professional or approach one of the support groups listed below

Support for family and friends


Al-Anon has over 800 support groups across the UK and Ireland where family members can share their experiences

SMART Recovery runs a programme for friends and families, including online meetings and support forums 

Adfam has support groups and helplines for family members affected by drugs or alcohol

GamAnon offers help to families affected by gambling 

GamCare offers free and confidential support for gamblers and their families

Lionheart is here to help past and present RICS members and their families. To talk to a support officer or counsellor in confidence please call: 0800 009 2960 or email info@lionheart.org.uk

 Tracy Evans is a support officer at LionHeart. 

 

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